Posted by pinkeye on April 28, 2005, at 16:30:14
In reply to Tormenting myself... (longish), posted by Tamar on April 28, 2005, at 16:20:40
I had felt several times when my Ts (both my ex and my new one) preparing themselves suddenly. It is just a moment's change and I have observed it.
Especially with my ex T, sometimes when I told him I really thought of him as a friend and not as a Dr, I had observed him retract himself, and kind of just withdrawn. But when I told him about my attraction, he really didn't stop to even think about it for a minute.. I think he must have had guessed it by the time, that I was going to say it.
Is it possible your T is not someone who likes to build dependance and work through transference and stuff? like Daisy's is? That could have even been the reason why you never told your T how you felt about him. I was reading the book "In Session" and it was written how the Ts are genuises in sending out the signals to the clients that they are open to hearing anything - other than the relationship with them. You might want to read that book. I sneaked out and read the whole book in Barnes and Noble in about couple of hours, because I couldn't bring the book home with my husband around. That book was really profound in many ways.
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