Posted by cricket on April 25, 2005, at 7:47:42
In reply to Re: My session yesterday » annierose, posted by gardenergirl on April 23, 2005, at 23:55:30
> I am less angry, I think, but still confused and hurt. I think I finally figured out what the "what I want from him" was. I want to be soothed. And that is not at all what he would be likely to do. It doesn't fit the analytical model. I have to learn to soothe myself.
It is very interesting what you say about being soothed. I think that lately I've been wanting that from my T too. And perhaps the issue is that it doesn't fit the analytical model. I particularly remember one dream that really upset me, I was shaking and sobbing as I related it, and as soon as I finished speaking (in fact he didn't even quite wait until I was finished) he immediately launched into an interpretation, without missing a single beat to assess my emotional state, without even looking up at me.
You said you have to learn to soothe yourself. My problem is that I already know how to do that. In fact, I've split off parts of myself whose almost sole function is soothing me. So for me to want and allow someone real to soothe me would be major progress, I think. Either this T doesn't agree or he's so far off the mark in understanding me, I wonder what I've been doing there, or maybe he's just not capable of soothing.
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