Posted by Susan47 on April 22, 2005, at 8:07:26
In reply to Re: Sublimation and Subjugation » Susan47, posted by cricket on April 22, 2005, at 7:40:36
Well, you asked if he terminated me because of my feelings and I can definitely say yes.
I don't know if it's unethical.
But I do know it hurt incredibly much then and it hurts now, but not so much. I'd asked him to terminate me, on his answering machine, several weeks before he actually did do it. And now he claims that's the reason he did it. But I know that is not true. Because therapists learn to listen for stuff like that, and approach it. But this man, he ignored it, and he never tried to discuss it. He always made me make the moves, and he didn't understand that I didn't have the capability in me to do that, how much I needed him to approach me with caring, but he couldn't bring himself to do that. He's like a wall, and I kept hitting the wall.
Thank you for your very lovely kindness, Cricket. I'm sure your therapist doesn't hate you, but I think you have a very good point when you say they have egos.
I kind of hit a milestone when I realized intellectually that it doesn't matter what another person thinks of me. It matters what I think. But if what I think isn't very good, I need someone to help me change that. My therapist, this man I went to for help, he was not able to do that he made it worse. So if your therapist is making it worse, See Someone Else, IMO. If it's not too late for you to do that, emotionally. My therapist waited too long, to take any action.. then that action was the rejecting one I'd always feared and known would come. Honestly, Cricket, I pushed him into rejecting me. Voila.