Posted by sunny10 on April 15, 2005, at 11:29:24
In reply to Finished Reading, posted by Susan47 on April 15, 2005, at 9:58:29
I have told him just how much he scared me when he strangled me.... I'm not afraid to tell him that. I told him that "of course I became panicked when the little white dots appeared on the edges of my sight due to lack of oxygen"... I have not sugar-coated what harm he did while talking with him. I am not letting him off the hook that easily!
I just can't remember whether I told him that I told the landlord that he strangled me....
And mostly that's because I was still in panic mode when SO and I discussed it... I have a tendency to slightly disassociate during times of stress and I simply cannot recall exactly what I said when we discussed it.
THAT's where the question in my mind comes from... he knows that I told them that he caused a domestic violence situation and I had to get out. No matter how I WORDED it. He knows that he will be under scrutiny. He knows that he will be viewed as a guilty party.
And frankly, I think he needs to hear this from a third party who doesn't know us. It is never okay to bring violence into an argument. If it was someone he picked a fight with in a bar, they could have pressed charges and he would be in jail! The only reason I didn't bother is because it was behind closed doors and there were no witnesses. And when someone chokes you with their forearm from behind, tightening it with the other arm, it only leaves a red pressure mark that fades quickly... strangling with hands from the front leaves huge marks... I had no proof whatsoever because of the way he did it.
He needs to be clean and sober, and he needs anger management classes.
I am no perfect little princess, either- I could use some anger management classes myself.
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