Posted by Tamar on April 3, 2005, at 17:33:37
In reply to Update for all..., posted by tryingtobewise on April 3, 2005, at 16:35:40
> It actually gets worse...today I went into work because I didn't work on Friday. I had believed there were no suites open in our small building. I went the other way down the hall though to check, and sure enough there is one very vacant suite with a waiting area and 3 offices. Just watch...this is where she will be. I have a bad feeling about that.
Oh no! I can imagine! Would your new T get any choice in the matter? Would she be offered the opportunity to choose any of the available offices on the site? If it's possible for her to choose an office that isn't in your building, she might be prepared to do that. Mind you, I suppose she'll want to be wherever is most suitable for her. That's a really difficult situation for you. I feel for you.
I'm glad she knows about the situation with your former T. I hope it's some comfort that she's aware of all the intricacies of the situation.
For what it's worth, I really don't think you're a wimp. People work in far less morally ideal situations for far less reason (I'm thinking of one or two journalists I know...). You have children to feed; you need to work. End of story. If the employment conditions (flexibility, pay etc) are useful for you, then why should you give it up? And working for a likeable boss is hugely important. I've worked for some real monsters and it makes such a difference to work for someone you can get along with.
I love the idea that you're nice to clients. That's another reason not to give up your job. It's great that you have so much sympathy for them. I hope they appreciate you!
> Basically the whole thing is a mess. Maybe I just need to quit my job, quit therapy, quit meds and not deal with any of them anymore. But I really like New T.
Oh dear! I can imagine that you just want to run away and hide. But, as you say, you really like your new T, and it sounds as if she's sensitive enough to understand the situation. Perhaps when you talk it through with her you'll be able to feel more comfortable about it all.
I'm sure you can work this out. It seems to me that the main concern would be what to do if you run into her by accident. If you're able to think about that, and discuss it with her, then you should be on the way to finding a solution.
I'll be thinking of you.
Tamar
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