Posted by daisym on March 17, 2005, at 20:20:25
In reply to Final session tomorrow, posted by Tamar on March 17, 2005, at 13:30:40
I had this conversation with my therapist today. About caring about him and thinking I need to keep those feelings a secret. (Now, my feelings aren't romantic, but instead very maternal.) He said he didn't think they should be a secret, that it not only OK, but nice to hear. He said one more time how the therapy relationship is a strange one, with different rules and constraints but no less real. And that if he cares about me, which he does, why would it be not OK for me to care about him?
So instead of thinking of it as keeping it together, perhaps think of it as something to say good-bye with. Tell him how much you care, what a difference he's made for you and how much you are going to miss him, even as ready as you feel. I think if it is offered up this way, without expectations, just an honest sharing from the heart, it will be well received.
I hope it goes well. Let us know.
Daisy
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