Posted by pinkeye on March 9, 2005, at 21:44:48
In reply to Re: (Redirect) New, and a bit sad, posted by Tamar on March 9, 2005, at 10:34:06
But even if leaving a therapist is so extremely hard, it is not something that is not do-able at all. It can be done. And with time and effort you will be able to look back without the pain that you feel now because of leaving the person. You will definitely feel sad and will miss the person, but atleast it doesn't have to hurt too much.
Lots of times in life, we just have to move on and take some hard steps in life, because life demands it at several points to let go. And maybe you can keep in mind, that it is for the long term good that you are going through this now.
It is very hard, I know, but I am just trying to speak for myself as to you. The idea is to keep as busy as possible and try to keep occupying your mind with several other things that you don't keep thinking about this person.
Also if it is your last session, you might ask him somethings which you might wonder later - like if he liked you as a patient etc etc. Not sure if you will get an answer, but if you get a positive answer, that will be something to remember and cling to when you miss him. But it might be a double edged knife -if he refuses, then it will hurt - for a long time. Then you will wonder all sorts of things.. Be prepared for that.
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