Posted by daisym on February 26, 2005, at 0:06:41
In reply to And on a different note... Sex (graphic), posted by Dinah on February 25, 2005, at 16:08:01
****It's kind of nice to have a therapist I can have those talks with.
I think so too. I can talk to mine about sex, which can be difficult given the csa issues, but he is very calm and practical about things. He has admitted that this is an area where he feels very protective of me because the flash backs can be intensely destabalizing. I think I have wifely "duties" and he says it just isn't good for me right now.
Awhile ago, when I first brought up the subject, he sort of "interviewed" me about my sexual history (laughable -- good catholic girl)and my, umm, preferences and proclivities. He very seriously gave a little speech about how he had heard it all and he didn't use the word "normal" because he didn't think there was "normal". I think I laughed myself silly as I'm so "normal" -- conservative just doesn't even cover it. So we talked about that instead. The fact that we can use humor and be sarcastic with each other really helps get beyond embarrassment --though i've made him blush. And then teased him about it.
Now that was fun!
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