Posted by littleone on February 24, 2005, at 21:00:12
In reply to Sharing the burden (possible slight trigger), posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 20:01:50
> I hear about people telling their spouses or significant others, and I'm flabbergasted. Obviously my husband knows something's up. I'm going to therapy so often. And I must look unwell, because he keeps stopping me and asking me if I'm ok. And trying to hug me.
Oh Dinah, I so agree. It just floors me the way some people share things with husbands/friends/etc. I just can't comprehend doing that. It is so foreign to who I am.
And my poor husband. Even if I did talk to him, he would never in a million years respond in a way that was helpful for me.
I'm sorry you can't get the support you need from your husband. Or from friends/etc IRL.
A lot of psych books I read talk about therapy being a place to build trust or a secure attachment relationship which then acts as a bridge to secure relationships outside of therapy. I know a lot of the theory, but to be honest, I can't see it ever happening with me.
What does your T say about forming other friendships IRL that can help to meet your needs?
And what do you think is hindering you from forming other friendships? I know you think you're odd (delightfully so, of course :) ). Is that the main problem, or are you also shy, or something else? I was going to ask if you have trouble maintaining friendships - but I would find that hard to believe after hearing how hard you've worked on the relationship with your T :)
> Which again leaves my therapist the one sturdy leg on my support stool. And I worry that I am putting too much weight on it. Even if he says I'm not.
I can't help you with the whole burnout issue. It would be a big concern of mine if I was to ever "bother" my T. I can't even believe that he's not totally sick of seeing me week after week.
Sorry, to clarify, I don't mean to imply that *you* are bothering your T, I mean that I don't like to bother people with even a phone call or a question or anything. Often I don't even want to "bother" babble with a post. My issue, not yours.
But anyway, I guess I was saying that anything I say will probably reinforce and intensify your concerns, so I will simply say that I understand and that it is hard. I feel for you.
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