Posted by Shortelise on February 23, 2005, at 20:44:24
In reply to Follow-Up, posted by Speaker on February 22, 2005, at 23:02:57
Speaker, I just don't like this.
You are telling him what you need. You are telling him that when you call in a crisis, you need a call back.
Ok, so he wanted you to say on the telephone, please call me.
I just don't get what he's doing. I would like to think that he is focussing on your needs, and that you must in some way need this kind of "tough love". But do you? Do you need someone to keep his distance? Is there something in your history that might make you think he's doing this "for your own good"?
I would hate it. I would not have stayed in therapy if my T had been like this, but mine did telephone me, unasked. I needed that to eventually come to believe that he cared about me.
You aren't in termination, right? Now my T doesn't worry so much if he can't return a call the same day because I am seeing him less, being less involved in therapy, but he used to never fail to do so.
Speaker, I don't know what to suggest. If it were my T I would sit in his office and say "I hate this, I think you don't care about me, and I need to feel you care about me in order to trust you. I think you are not trying to help me trust you, and I don't understand why."
Hugs,
ShortE
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