Posted by daisym on February 19, 2005, at 23:19:00
In reply to I've Been Thinking, posted by Speaker on February 19, 2005, at 21:16:57
You sound like you are being very logical about this. My feelings would be hurt, mostly because it is the message I've heard my whole life -- "you are so strong, look how well you cope".
My guess is you've heard this a bunch too. You just don't expect it to come from your therapist, you expect them to see past those defenses. I think you have every right to an explanation of what he was thinking, or not thinking. And if he didn't understand your distress, then he needs to be clear about what you should say.
This was something I had to learn too. I would leave these cryptic messages in my most professional voice and he would be blown away to find out I was suicidal. So we need to be clear as we can.
All that said, I'm sorry you have to go through this. You have enough on your plate without thinking about starting over in therapy. But I think you need and deserve more support than you are getting.
Hugs from me.
Daisy
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