Posted by mair on February 12, 2005, at 15:55:44
In reply to In Fact, GG, I've Worked to Keep it Going, posted by Susan47 on February 12, 2005, at 9:53:08
> I've actually made an Effort, (can you believe it? It's true!) I've made an effort and quite a concerted one at that, to keep my feelings of love going and going strongly until I can analyze it somewhat with my new therapist. I've kept those feelings going because as I told my ex-T C, I'm not going through this again with anyone else. The whys and wherefores of these feelings need to be explored and resolved.
Susan - I think that's so incredibly brave. I hope you're new T can help you with this. I had nothing as awful as your experience; not even close - but I was inadvertently hurt by some things my ex pdoc/T said and wrote after we stopped working together and my current T has really been helpful with processing those. The hurt doesn't totally go away and it comes back at the oddest times. She's been pretty much willing to talk about it whenever I want to - we just go over all the old ground for the umpteenth time and somehow it helps to tide me over until I remember something else that stung.
The best thing she's done is point out where she thought he screwed up. She's been able to do this while acknowledging his very good traits. I think I don't feel as responsible as I used to for the aspects of therapy with him that didn't work.