Posted by tryingtobewise on February 11, 2005, at 0:28:02
In reply to A parent who drank a lot, posted by Dinah on February 10, 2005, at 19:33:11
I can totally relate to this, but with a twist to the story at the end.
My father drank a lot. I certainly never thought of him as an alcoholic and in fact we all liked him better, and were much more relaxed around him when he was drinking. He was never a sloppy drunk, just calmer and easier to be with. When sober, he was intense & had a bad temper.
Then my younger sis developed a problem with drugs. She was 16 when she went to her first rehab. As part of the process a parent had to go through adult rehab. So my dad went, decided he was an alcoholic, gave up drinking & became a devoted member of AA.
It was rough on all of us when he QUIT drinking. AA did seem to help him in a lot of ways though. But the point of this whole story is that...
The 2 T's I've had in my life have jumped all over the fact that I am an "Adult Child of An Alcoholic". They immediately seem to think this is very important. I do not think it is at all. There were some difficult parts of growing up, but whether or not he truely was an alcoholic was not one of them. While I can't take words back, if I ever end up with a new T (I currently love mine so this is very hypothetical), I don't even know if it is something I'd bother mentioning.