Posted by Pfinstegg on January 21, 2005, at 11:00:23
In reply to A COMMENT TO ALL PLS?, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 18, 2005, at 18:20:01
Your situation brings up very conflicting feelings in me. On one side, I feel very glad for you. I know that you and he really are in love- and love is so precious wherever you find it.
On the other side, I am very uneasy about how everything happened. It seems to me that, once he knew that he loved you, he should have referred you to another therapist for therapy, and should have waited two years before entering into a relationship with you. Then, he would have been following the minimum APA guidelines. It would also have given you both the chance to develop an equal relationship in which therapy is not playing a part. The waiting period would also have given you both confidence that the relationship was solidly based and would be long-lasting.
I don't think anyone here is questioning or resentful about the fact that you love one another, at all. I do feel that he allowed things to happen in a way that may be dangerous for you both.
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