Posted by LG04 on January 12, 2005, at 23:19:42
In reply to T calling between sessions...what do you think?, posted by Speaker on January 12, 2005, at 15:38:48
speaker, i understand how you feel. that would bother me too. i'd rather hear, "i'd be happy to do check-ins with you," or "of course you can call me if you need to." i'm very sensitive to the way someone words something as well as the tone of their voice.
a few weeks ago when i went to a new therapist, and she was asking me all those "history" questions, she came to the part about abuse. i told her that i wasn't comfortable answering that question b/c i hardly know her and it's not something i speak about so easily. i also said that i hadn't even had an opportunity to ask her anything about herself. (i hate when therapists ask you all these private and potentially triggering or painful questions the first session and before they even offer you the opportunity to ask them questions, to get to know them a tinsy bit before you open up your life story to them. just because they have a sign on their door that says "therapist" or whatever, i am supposed to trust them the first time i meet them?). i answered the same way when she asked about hospitalizations. she did stop and said i could ask her anything i wanted. but it was like, "ask me whatever you want so then we can get back to these questions."
well at the end of the session, i asked her something and she said, "well i don't know yet because you weren't willing to answer certain questions." and that just made me so mad. maybe it was also the tone of her voice. and i said, "i think the better word is that i wasn't READY to answer certain questions."
i don't even know if this relates to your dilemma. i thought it did because of the idea of being willing or not to do something. i just don't like the word "willing." so i'm with you speaker.
sorry i don't have any suggestions. but i do have empathy for your frustration/hurt.
LGp.s. i didn't go back to that therapist.
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