Posted by tryingtobewise on January 4, 2005, at 17:05:27
In reply to Y'Know it's funny, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 12:11:35
Dinah...
Stop! Please do not be so harsh to yourself. You would not tell your son he is ugly, please do not allow yourself to say it to yourself. I don't have any idea what you look like in real life, but I will say that I read a lot of posts, and am constantly amazed by the insight and self disclosure you graciously share. Even if you do happen to be on the plainer end of the spectrum, your intelligence and kindness are worth so much more than outward beauty. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it is true.
May I humbly suggest that one important thing to learn from your dream is not that you are capable of having a sex dream about your T., but instead that you are sure that he (and perhaps he represents men in general) would recoil. Maybe a topic of discussion at some point is how you feel about the physical aspect of yourself.
Be kind to yourself. From what I've read, the last few weeks have been extremely difficult in terms of life events.
And one last note... Not that I'm an expert (far from it), but I doubt that there are very few men...even well regarded Ts...who would not be flattered that someone has a sexual interest in them, even if it is inappropriate. Recoil??? I don't think so.
Kim
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