Posted by littleone on January 4, 2005, at 15:37:16
In reply to Maybe I'll tell him, but...., posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 8:02:58
I agree that sex dreams aren't about sex.
At one stage I was having two dreams on and off that persisted until I understood what they meant.
I won't go into details, but one was about me and my T's son. I came to understand that that one was about me in control and receiving admiration/adoration. The second one was about me and my T. That one was about me trying to please, me adoring him, me wanting his approval.
Even though they were both sex dreams, neither was really about the sex.
As soon as I understood what the dreams were really about, they went away, which was kind of shame really ;)
I was going to say that you should tell your T about them, the old grist for the mill. But I must admit that I was never game enough to tell my T about these dreams. I have told him other dreams that involved him, but they weren't sexual at all.
Your T knows you don't think of him in a sexual sense (remember the eunuch) and that you don't think of yourself in a sexual sense. I think he would quickly see past the sexual aspects portrayed in your dream.
If you're worried about seeing a flash of disgust over his face, warn him beforehand so he's prepared to hold a nice face.
Also, I know you've mentioned that picture with your dad before, but I can't recall if you've shown it to your T or not. Did he see an uncomfortable sexual aspect to it? I got a heap of old family photos reprinted to help with my sessions and I was really shocked to see how short some of my dresses were. Especially for an innocent 6 year old. They seemed very inappropriate and it was really unsettling for me to look back at them. Gives me the goobies just thinking about them.
I'd be interested to hear what your T said about your photo.
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