Posted by just plain jane on December 27, 2004, at 20:10:29
In reply to Lunch, or lack thereof, posted by littleone on December 26, 2004, at 23:29:15
Well, you didn't really want to go to their planned luncheon anyway, and the whole moving it to another time and place deal would be enough for me to say (to myself) scroo this cr@p and them, and just blow off any future tugs at you for socialization with them.
Does your husband understand that you just don't care to be around these people any more? That your desire is not to punish them or show them or anything more than to just leave them in their own squallid dust?
Maybe someday you'll want to go to something or visit, on whatever terms you decide on, but since that time is not here, my suggestion would be to treat them like anyone else you know but don't care to be around.
Hope I've captured the situation accurately, seems a lot like mine, that's why my opinion here is what it is. Took me a long time to get here, but it's the healthiest place I've been regarding my family in my entire life. No longer under their control.
just plain jane
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