Posted by Rigby on December 22, 2004, at 23:56:55
In reply to Re: A strange thought perhaps but » crushedout, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 22, 2004, at 22:45:03
Like Fallen4 said, I think you need to be clear that you want a certain type of support--otherwise, when you post you'll get various perspectives and opinions.
As far as my feelings are concerned, I spent time thinking about your situation and really trying to come up with the best response that I could for you. To have you respond by saying that I don't get it and that I think you're doing therapy wrong and wasting your life is not only a misinterpration of my message but it's disrespectful of me and the time and thought I put into your situation.
Good luck.
> But Crushed all we can do is try and you do not like what we think is supportive. You say you like 1 persons support. I think you know my situation with my T so I feel I am VERY neutral in this more so than really anyone who has posted to you. So yes support comes in many forms and helpful is WHAT??? that was the point of my last post was for you to maybe ask yourself why most of the helpful posts I have read in here...to you seem to be.. to you... NOT supportive or helpful?? I am not being difficult either I just know how you feel to some extent being one to cross lines and all myself and the fence sitting is not good for you I can read and hear the stress in all your replies. So I can only support you how I would want to be supported and I would ask myself WHAT IS IT I AM NOT GETTING THAT I WANT TO HEAR IN HERE...AND maybe post it to yourself or for all of us to see what you need or want? I really FEEL for your PAIN and frustration I REALLY DO...but I feel that youre biting a lot of hands that are typing and trying to help. I CARE . I do not care what you do I CARE that you do DO something to stop this agony for yourself. I am not saying its easy man of anyone in here I would know that best. I hope you try what I said it just MIGHT help you find what you need and want but maybe arent sure yourself on.
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> > That's not completely true. For example, I liked Dinah's reply, as I made pretty clear in my response to it. She validated my feelings without telling me what to do.
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> > I'm not looking for answers. There are no easy answers to this problem. I'm just trying to get helpful feedback and support. That can come in many forms. It's hard to say exactly what I'm looking for because it's not that specific.
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> > I'm not trying to be difficult. I'm just looking for help and some kinds of help are not helpful.
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