Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2004, at 21:24:29
In reply to Re: Oh thanks, but... » Dinah, posted by Toph on December 19, 2004, at 21:17:53
I'm sorry, Toph. :(
I suspect that accepting compliments may be a learned skill. I think all children should be given plenty of opportunities to learn it.
It's a delicate balance with kids, I think. I remember the montessori teaching was that compliments should be directed to effort more than outcome, shouldn't be overly profuse, and should be specific rather than general. I think I tend to overcompliment. But he's an only child. Three in that short succession, and I'd probably be lucky to dress and feed them all.
So you had too few compliments, I possibly had too profuse compliments.
I wonder if those who accept compliments well could weigh in with their experiences as a child.
P.S. My son was very slow to learn to read, compared to my husband and I at least. But he was very precocious about learning to write. He has a drive to express himself. I always said he would probably learn to read by reading his own writing. Are you by chance lefthanded or ambidextrous?
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