Posted by 10derheart on December 19, 2004, at 0:03:18
In reply to Re: Oh thanks, but... » Shortelise, posted by Toph on December 18, 2004, at 22:07:35
Toph -
I know I've just started posting a lot, but I've been lurking nearly a year and reading your posts for a long time. I often think they are funny, intelligent and clever. Not to mention honest, witty, supportive and helpful. So there!
And I TOTALLY have had this problem. The past few years it's gotten much better. For me, it's practice, practice, practice saying "thank you" and stopping myself from minimizing and discounting the compliment. After a while, it gets more natural. But it's tough. Just last week I was wearing makeup, which I only do a few times a month when the impulse hits me, and several female friends literally stopped in their tracks to say, "Wow! You look great!" These are lovely, warm folks who aren't known to be superficial or fake. But it was a huge struggle NOT to say, "Oh, so how horrid do I look all the rest of the time without makeup?!" Very similar to the dilemna people have when they want to compliment you about weight issues. These are minefields where it's hard to win, don't you think?It's a really interesting thread. Thanks for posting it!
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