Posted by Joslynn on December 16, 2004, at 11:11:54
In reply to Can't stop thinking about my psychiatrist, posted by pretty_paints on December 15, 2004, at 10:50:07
I had something very similar except the the person was a male, and I wanted to be healthy to please him and make him proud, but the other yearnings that you mentioned were the same for me too. When I was feeling down about relationships, he would remind me I was pretty, smart, etc., and of course that was like Cloud 9. Now I realize why they tell Ts etc to be careful with the compliments. It can be fodder for transference.
Then the mental fantasy kind of exploded and reality hit me in the face. I guess part of me wanted to be free of it and was ready for that. It's a long story. I still see him for meds (he's an excellent, caring doctor) but don't do therapy with him anymore and I have a regular T for that anyway. I felt too emotionally dependent, but that was my problem and may not be yours or most people's.
Everything you're feeling is very normal and has been discussed a lot on here. Do a search under "transference" and maybe also "therapuetic alliance" or "therapeutic relationship." Oh yeah and also check out the books on the top of this link.
Good luck.
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