Posted by 10derheart on December 14, 2004, at 2:27:20
In reply to confessional confusion, posted by fluffycat on December 13, 2004, at 23:02:09
I think you were extrememly brave to just tell him like you did. It takes some months or longer to work up to it, and some never do. Especially since I'm guessing you don't have as close, and perhaps as trusting, a relationship with pdoc as you do with your T. I think this is quite difficult for all T's (or pdocs). His slightly odd reaction may just be his way of coping as he first hears something he knows is delicate and important. Just a bit of background...I had a wonderful pdoc who checked meds and sort of checked on how my therapy was progressing w/my actual T. for abut 18 months. Then (long story)my pdoc took over all therapy and I saw only him. We had a wonderful rapport and I developed major transference and/or feelings of love and attraction toward him. I so badly wanted to tell, so we could deal with it all in the open, but I was frozen and too scared to do it. Finally, 2 days before my LAST SESSION, I gave him a letter where I spelled it all out. (well, maybe not every private thought {blushing} but enough so he got the point there wasa big crush/transference/love issue. He was fine with it, I could just tell, although not exactly eager to discuss it. But, in his defense, it was the last session, he knew I was terribly sad, and we only had 55 minuntes. We never did get to properly process that, unfortunately. I think what you did and the timing, is excellent. Sounds like something to surely take up with your T.
This is a link to the book Voce mentioned,"In Session", also at the top of this page. It's a FANTASTIC book, as you can see by the fact Babblers place it #1. Please try to get your hands on it. I, too, have reread parts of it many times and it really helps. You hang in there and keep inspiring us with your openness and courage. Bravo!
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