Posted by smokeymadison on November 28, 2004, at 14:34:35
In reply to Re: Is my T dumping me?, posted by left_hangin on November 28, 2004, at 11:30:23
the questions you might want to ask might include how much he/she focuses on the past events in your life or whether he/she tends to focus on what is going on with you presently (or both). If you have a lot in your past that is not "resolved" you may want a therapist who will be willing to work through those memories with you. basically, is his/her focus on the past or the present? ask right away how often they would be willing to see you and if night appointments are possible.
i have found, that for myself, i require a therapist who has a more direct approach, someone who will call me on my bullshit and tell me when they think i am messing up. some therapists won't do that, they will let you do most of the talking and just be supportive and encouraging without really saying much about what you need to think about changing in your life. that approach doesn't work well for me b/c i tend to wallow in self pity when the therapist is "so sorry" for me.
think about what you need in a therapist. do you need someone to just listen or someone who interacts more with you? you should be able to get a pretty good feel as to how well the therapist "reads" you in one trial session. a good therapist will have a lot of respect for you for asking for an interview/trial session. it means that you are strong enough and wise enough to find someone that can really help you. i know that seeing several therapists and sharing a bit about yourself to each one in order to find the right one is very difficult, but i promise that it is worth it. good luck and let us know how it goes!
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