Posted by lifeworthliving on November 26, 2004, at 13:48:56
In reply to Re: Different emphasis on attachment - pegusus » pegasus, posted by Dinah on November 26, 2004, at 7:25:23
yes, dinah, i've read the book (on your recommend!) and also refer to it off and on, hoping to find something that wasn't there before? to understand myself/situation better. i understand the why of attachment, i think? i guess i don't understand how it applies to me. i'm so shocked sometimes to find out i'm a regular joe (so to speak) and was left with scars from childhood... like i should've been above that somehow, because i already knew it was bad and compensated well?) it's just so not me, ya know? so, am i to understand that because of childhood experiences and lack of attachment to mother that i was ripe for this kind of thing? i was sort of insightful before therapy and recognized certain patterns in my life. specifically that i was drawn to older woman and had relationships where i was mothered to some degree. i CRAVED it more than anything and alwayd felt so fortunate to have some older, nurturing woman in my life. all good learning, as usual. i hope this makes me a better counselor.