Posted by Miss Honeychurch on November 17, 2004, at 10:08:51
In reply to obsession, posted by crushedout on November 16, 2004, at 23:18:46
Crushed,
I 'm going to try a little CBT/REBT on you. ONe thing I have learned the past year is to stop awfulizing or catastrophizing things. So while you feel obsessed, you probably feel that that is AWFUL and that you SHOULDN'T feel that way.
So, instead of saying to yourself, "This is terrible, I'm obsessing again and behaving poorly and not like how I would like to. This is the worst."
TRy to replace it with "Ok, so I'm obsessing again. While I prefer not to feel this way, it's not the worst thing in the world. I've done it before and come out the other end. Who says I SHOULDN'T be obsessing? Where is that written in stone? It isn't."
Once you take the shoulds off yourself and others, things become much easier.
I'm sorry if I sound idiotic. I'm just telling you what works for me and hope it may work for you.
poster:Miss Honeychurch
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20041113/msgs/417055.html