Posted by littleone on October 31, 2004, at 22:27:28
In reply to Re: Memories *could be a trigger, about dead people* » littleone, posted by Daisym on October 31, 2004, at 19:47:40
> That said, it sounds reasonable to me to be careful about false memories. We know that lots of things we see or do as children are misinterpretted so they can be "wrong" memories, not really "false."
I like this description so much better. I'm a very moral and ethical person and it causes me angst to think of some memories as "false". It seems to insinuate that they are lies. I feel so much more comfortable thinking of them as misinterpretations that can be constantly reviewed as further puzzle pieces come to hand.
>It has been my experience that repressed memories come both suddenly and also in pieces, like a puzzle. I always liken it to having a conversation with someone about a movie...they say something that makes you remember another part, and then you say something, and the more you talk about it, the more you remember.
I seem to relate to everything better when it is described metaphorically. Must be because I'm a visual person and the metaphors paint a picture. Thanks for the alternative pictures Daisy.
> Pulling the thread, my therapist calls it.
ACK! Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love your therapist (is that called Transcontinental Transferance :) ) but by "pulling the thread" I think of one of those old cartoons where the character has a knitted jumper and a thread gets pulled and pulled and pulled until there is no jumper left, just a big pile of tangled thread. I think that some days I'm the jumper and some days I'm the tangled thread.
> Is it possible that you felt like someone died at some point during the abuse?
It's interesting that you say this. I've read that when a child is subjected to say repeated emotional abuse, it can get to the point where the child may wish to simply die. If the survival instinct is strong enough in the child, it will prevent a physical death, but the child can experience a sort of emotional death. One where the hurt is split off and repressed. As this happens more and more, each split is like another little death.
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