Posted by Rigby on October 22, 2004, at 13:36:30
I'd really appreciate feedback on this.
Last night I saw my therapist. She's had boundary issues in the past with me but has mostly been pretty good about things the past year or so.
About ten minutes into the session she stopped me and said, "Do you smell that?" I sniffed. Then got up and walked to her side of the room, then said, "Nope." She said, huh, maybe what you were talking about triggered her. I said, my grandmother had olfactory hallucinations and she was a schizophrenic.
We moved on. But it was weird.
Then further along I was talking about how my partner got this great new job, pays a ton, with travel to Europe, how she and I were getting along quite well, etc. I said that my partner was very excited to take me along on one of the jaunts to Europe. My therapist said, "I can't believe she isn't pissed off at you."
Note: My partner and I struggled this summer as I, openly, slept with someone else. My partner and I reeled a bit but we're dealing okay.
Anyway, I felt really slammed by this comment--kinda felt that my therapist revealed her true feelings. I told her so. She said she was simply trying to put herself in my partner's shoes. I said, #1, it's not her job to put herself in my partner's shoes and, even if she did, it was *she* who was in those shoes and it was *her* feelings about my situation, the therapist's that were coming out. I suggested she might be having a hard time dealing with issues in my life and that she might be projecting her anger at what I did.
She kinda went, "Huh."
She also back pedaled for a long while then I got up and left. As I was at the door she stopped me saying how lousy I must feel, that she didn't mean it, etc. But the damage had been done, I feel. You can't un-say stuff.
I've lost trust in this therapist. Bottom line.
Any thoughts would be appreciated. I feel badly but I feel like I may need to dump her. I don't feel super attached, just betrayed. And I DEFinitely won't try and work it out with her on my dime.
Thanks much for any thoughts you guys might have.
Rigby
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