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A stalker » College-Girl

Posted by badhaircut on October 8, 2004, at 8:00:45

In reply to NEED ADVICE, PLEASE, posted by College-Girl on October 7, 2004, at 15:22:12

What seems "gentle" to you may be like cocaine to her. If you say, "You're nice but stop calling," a stalker will only register that you're focusing on her. She's likely to take any attention from you as a cue to escalate. Clearly, your gut is telling you she's a threat. Listen to those warning bells: that's what they're there for.

A stalker doesn't care about your kindness; she wants you to feed her narcissistic demands for attention. It may be hard to ignore her, especially since she may increase her persistent calls for a while, but completely ignoring such a manipulative, boundary-breaking, disrespectful abuser may be the best option.

You may want to look at: http://www.stalkingbehavior.com/areyoubeingstkd.htm, which also has advice on dealing with similar threats.

Good luck.


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