Posted by Pfinstegg on September 10, 2004, at 17:48:44
In reply to I'm feeling sick and dizzy, posted by Dinah on September 10, 2004, at 13:36:26
You seem to have gone from planning to take a wonderful step to losing all confidence in it- all in 24 (or less hours)- I feel so sad to hear it. I don't think an ego state disorder is in any way a contra-indication for sex or marital therapy. I feel I'm sort of one of PB's poster girls for ego state disorders- or dissociative disorders- just because I've been trying to post honestly about it here for more than a year. During that time, my husband and I have had sex therapy -mainly, but of course not entirely, to deal with the aftermath of his surgery and radiation for prostate cancer. It helped us a LOT, and. I think the thing about ego state disorders is that you have hidden, mostly unconscious cut-off feeling states from childhood. In day-to-day life, they don't ever make you seem like *another* person. I'm considered very reliable- always the *same*, almost to a fault, by the people who know me best. But inside, the feeling states are disconnected from one another- and from the adult conscious me. They cause me to often feel fearful and sad; it takes a lot of energy to keep them out of consciousness- all of my therapy is aimed at getting them into consciouness, and also truly validated by my analyst. That seems to be the key to having them become more integrated with *me*, and to get to where they stop causing so much pain. But, getting back to the sex therapy, my ego state disorder didn't interfere one bit with it- we benefitted tremendously as a couple and are extremely happy to have done it. I don't see any reason why you couldn't explore getting the kind of individual therapy you want. I actually can't understand your T's viewpoint on it at all. I hope you'll continue to be guided by your own intuition on what's best for you. Maybe two years ago, when I first met you here, it would have been too early to do it, but you've changed a LOT since then. How can it possibly hurt to try? From experience, I can tell you that the good sex therapists are very respectful of their clients; they go slowly and carefully, and pay a lot of attention to everyone's individual situations and realities
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