Posted by shortelise on August 26, 2004, at 0:21:56
In reply to Re: write1 » Susan47, posted by thewrite1 on August 25, 2004, at 14:45:53
T's do something that might be called modeling in some kinds of therapy. They try to teach us ways of being and reacting by being and reacting that way.
BUT BUT BUT - this is not what all T's do! If a T is a jerk, that does not mean we should be jerks, it means that T is a jerk. ANd veryone has bad days - that's where it is so important that we talk about things.
Write1, that your T said she can understand why you might have felt that way/been affected that way - that's empathy. And it is wonderful to get empathy, isn't it? But I agree that to bring it up again could be helpful. If it were me, I'd have to! I would absolutely have to UNDERSTAND why my therapist did not feel it necessary to apologize.
But you know, as I think about it, I wonder if my T has actually apologized ever ... I know he has for sure said things like "it was not my intention to hurt you" or "I was wrong to have said that" or "I said something last time I shouldn't have" - along those lines.
I wonder if "I'm sorry" is cheap words. That's bad grammar, but you maybe get what I mean.
Hmm... Now I wonder. I am going to have to ask him about this.
ShortE
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