Posted by Miss Honeychurch on August 23, 2004, at 13:48:11
In reply to What is the point of being genuine?, posted by Dinah on August 21, 2004, at 10:34:18
Dinah,
Do you think you could possibly be thinking TOO much? Be analyzing TOO much?? I simply ask this because one of the first things I blurted out in therpay was that I was the biggest phony on the planet and did such a wonderful snow job on everyone I met whom I exposed to the fake Laurel and never let them see the "real" Laurel. In short, I was genuine with no one.
I think a lot of this had to do with my depression and the more that lifted, and the more I got to like myself better, the more I realized that that the phony Laurel was in fact part of the real Laurel. I was not being disingenuous at all. I think I also stopped analyzing a lot of stuff and just let myself "be."
I have trained my husband to no longer use shoulds - he was a huge proponent of that. It has made life a lot easier for me and our relationship as a result.
So I guess I just want to say to give yourself a break and let yourself be. Make ANY sense?
poster:Miss Honeychurch
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