Posted by Joslynn on August 9, 2004, at 23:07:14
In reply to Re: Good therapist-cop/Bad therapist-cop, posted by Joslynn on August 9, 2004, at 22:59:46
Forgot to add: The closest that it came to a conflict was in the early days, when I was still in a very idealized transference with my pdoc. (Since then, he has slipped from his pedastol a bit, though I am sure there is still transference without a doubt.) Anyway, she said, "Be careful not to idealize him." That made me feel a bit defensive.
I'm sure she is right that I idealize him, but telling me not to do that just made me feel censored in a way.
I think that is the only time I felt kind of torn about having them both. I am sure I do idealize him more than her, but I think that is simply because I have a good relationship with female friends, my mom, etc., but I have not had a good track record with romantic relationships and my Dad was impaired in his parenting because of alcoholism.
So I think the idealism may be because I am simply not used to that level of kindness and attention from a man. Of course, that compassion is paid for and I do want to find a form of that from men in my "real life," in a realistic setting.
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