Posted by daisym on July 30, 2004, at 16:15:55
In reply to Re: Oh, and... » DaisyM, posted by antigua on July 30, 2004, at 11:29:34
Antigua,
I'm sorry things have gone south. My therapist tells me I go south fast now because I'm so open and raw. It doesn't take as long for stressers or hurtful things to make their way inside to be felt. I also think those little kids inside tantrum and tell us when they are lonely and sad. YOU may have figured out how to be OK with your therapist gone, but your younger selves are upset and gosh darn it, they miss their "mommy!" Something may be upsetting to one of them, and you may not realize what it is yet.
What you descibe is exactly what happens to me. I can keep it together only so long without touching base. I really do think it is just like kids who do this. They keep it together until they have a safe person around and then they let themselves feel how upset they are about everything that has gone wrong in the past 8 hours (or whatever). That's why so many start crying the minute they spot a parent picking them up. (Anyone feel like crying the minute you enter the therapy office?) I felt a little like that yesterday. I had to hold it together because I was away from home, things didn't go as well as I'd liked, and then I had a big bomb dropped on me yesterday morning. My therapist had to give me the whole soothing speech about how I didn't have to handle it all alone, he was here for me, etc. etc. I cried, but they were tears of relief to be back in my safe place.
I hope you find a way to soothe yourself. Lollipops are a good start. Ice cream works too.
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