Posted by starlight on July 23, 2004, at 13:13:21
In reply to For Starlight(last message for you too), posted by Susan47 on July 22, 2004, at 19:04:27
I don't know how to explain it other than how I feel about it - it's like when I was in the military - there's not supposed to be any social/dating interaction between officers and enlisted. But I dated several officers, they were more educated in most cases, a couple were doctors, a couple were pilots, I even dated one (who knocked my socks off - I might add!) while I was in my tech school training. I'd sneak out of my window and meet him somewhere (and it was fun!)
They're just humans who've had a lot of schooling and they're supposed to adhere to this boundary, but boundaries are crossed all the time. Look at Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, etc., etc. It seems wrong, but it seems forgiveable to me. Everyone is needy - including therapists and we all seek love, healing, help, closeness. And maybe sometimes, that's the work. Maybe going through that whole experience is the work.....just a thought. Luckily, I haven't had that problem. I had one situation in college where I slept with a professor and was very into him, but then one day, when we were on a trip to the beach, I saw this side of him that completely disgusted me and I was done. From that point on he grossed me out - and then he started stalking me like a wierdo and I had to go to the Victim's advocate on campus to get it stopped. It was a great ego booster and I learned a lot from it, and I gained power by taking control of the situation and ditching him. It's kind of like we can turn the situation around and use it to our own advantage and growth.
Just some thoughts - I'm trying to be as honest as I can be.