Posted by partlycloudy on July 15, 2004, at 8:56:28
In reply to Re: transference or not? ***MAY TRIGGER** » toomuchpain, posted by fallsfall on July 15, 2004, at 7:51:36
(((too much pain))) I don't often know what to say on this board! but let me try. When I seem to be getting off on the wrong foot with my T or we seem to be working at cross-purposes, I get really frustrated that she doesn't seem to be listening to what I say. This gets us going on tangents that go nowhere and I can get steamed into silence. What I've tried - because I think it's as much my fault as hers - is if she doesn't seem to "get" what I'm saying, I try to rephrase or say parrot back to her what she has said. That usually makes it very clear that we're talking about two different things or that what I've said has been misunderstood.
I had one T who NEVER seemed to understand me - we played 20 questions for weeks and weeks before I suggested that perhaps I'd get a better result with another T. He agreed and that was that.
With my present T, even though we get along great and communicate well, sometimes we still read each other incorrectly. It's a place to release your frustrations, anger, and pain - if it's directed at your T, so be it. It's no less valid.
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