Posted by fallsfall on July 15, 2004, at 7:51:36
In reply to transference or not? ***MAY TRIGGER**, posted by toomuchpain on July 14, 2004, at 23:06:33
(((((Toomuchpain)))))
I wish it didn't hurt so much.
You HAVE to stay away from your old therapist. I hate to say that when he does bring you comfort, but you really HAVE to stay away from him. He has *proven* (before the committee of his peers) that he is not able to put your best interests first. He is dangerous to you.
Now. Your new therapist...
>she gets mad and sayd u kno that cant happen so stop wanting it
I'm really hoping that this is not what she is intending you to hear. I know that there have been so many times when I thought my therapist was angry - but he really wasn't. There have been so many times when I've told him what I "heard" him say and he looks at me like I have 3 heads and says "Where did you hear that? That's not what I said." I don't know if you have this same problem or not, but I strongly suggest that you read that quote to her so that she knows how you are interpretting her behavior and words. I'm really hoping that what you heard is not what she meant.
If this *is* what she meant then you need to tell her why you can't "just stop wanting it" - or tell her *that* you can't "just stop wanting it". If she can't understand that this is difficult, and if she can't give you some help on this then I would advise you to keep explaining to her until she understand that you need help with this.
(gee, can you tell that I am embroiled in a battle with my therapist? I have a need which he is refusing to help me with. I can't really say (yet) that my methods are productive, though, so you might want to take my advice with a grain of salt...)
If I remember correctly, this newest therapist did seem helpful at the beginning. I guess you need to work out WITH HER if her "unhelpfulness" right now is a purposeful strategy of hers, a misunderstanding between the two of you, an error of hers etc.
Because of my own crisis now, I am often not able to respond to posts - please know that this is not because I don't care.
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