Posted by LG04 on June 25, 2004, at 10:49:55
In reply to Re: Prodigal therapy client returns » tabitha, posted by Dinah on June 24, 2004, at 8:33:04
"I'm starting to wonder if mine is just getting sick of seeing me after so long. I also wonder if maybe the problem is that he's no longer on his best therapeutic behavior with me, since he feels safe with me."
Dinah, I just wanted to tell you that I have felt the same way before. In fact, my therapist once really snapped at me (on the phone). I was so upset and hurt. It's never happened before or since (this was some months ago). But at one point when we were discussing it afterwards and working thru it, she admitted that she probably wouldn't have snapped at most of her clients that way, that it happened because of how close she feels to me. (I caught her in a really bad mood.)
I felt like, "well i'd rather you be less close to me and not snap at me."
As I said, it's never happened again. But once in a while I do think she slips up because of how safe/close she feels to me. I do have problems with her being human and imperfect so I know some of it is my issue.
Also, I've also felt a few times lately that perhaps she is tired of me coming in with the same issues and struggles. She always says, "I can understand how you'd feel that way," and I am tired of that response. I want her to DO something, not just say how she understands how I feel.
But does that ever happen with you, where you are tired of his responses, that they feel to be the same again and again? And then you feel it's because he's perhaps tired of you or run out of ideas? That scares me.
LG
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