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Whoa! Back up a sec! toomuchpain

Posted by Racer on May 25, 2004, at 23:15:37

In reply to Re: U WIN .. I LOSE **MAY TRIGGER**, posted by toomuchpain on May 25, 2004, at 22:17:21

Listen, you already know that I'm all the way with you on the issue of it being THEIR responsibility to protect you. I want you to know that I think calling your new T to talk about this, rather than waiting until something happens was a wonderful self-protection move. You've done a wonderful job of protecting yourself, and taking care of yourself.

This has to be a really scary situation for you, and I can only imagine how hard it is for you to get through it all. I'm so glad your T is living up to that trust you're starting to feel for her -- it sounds as if she is making a real effort not only to earn your trust, but to live up to it as well. That is something so important, and I can't tell you how much I envy you that. That's so very vital to therapy.

I'm even behind you on the lawyer part, although I'd say give it a few days before you do it -- but only because you sound so overwrought right now. The rule I try to live by is not to make any irretrievable actions in a state of such high emotional arousal, you know? Give yourself a day or more to think about something else, then decide.

The real thing I really hope you'll think over, though, is the part about leaving this agency. If you have a therapist who is DOING something to PROVE herself trustworthy, that's a very precious thing. Give her a chance to prove herself before you risk losing that. Honestly, right now I'd settle for a therapist who managed half that, and I can't stand that you're feeling so upset that you're thinking of backing away from that. It's really frightening for me when I start feeling as though someone is actually going to come through for me, and will actually help me when that's been promised. After anything to do with a guy like the old T sounds to have been, I imagine it's not easy for you, either.

I guess all I'm saying is, "Give your new T a chance to prove herself to you. It sounds as if she's trying to.

Be well.


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