Posted by lonelygirl on May 1, 2004, at 13:55:39
In reply to Intense pain from upcoming termination, posted by LG04 on April 29, 2004, at 8:46:46
Hi LG... I guess we have a couple of things in common: we have the same initials and we are both terminating due to an upcoming move (I am graduating from college in 2 weeks and moving across the country, and will no longer be able to see my psychologist from the school health center).
For the past several weeks, I have thought about it frequently. I probably cry about it almost every day. Like you, I have been to several different psychologists and psychiatrists, and none have affected me like this one has. Losing him is a huge loss to me. And, like you, I feel like our work was not done; I think he could have helped me more if we had more time. I don't think that I can ever go to another therapist, for many reasons, including that no one could measure up to him.
You're fortunate that you can call and e-mail her, because I will not have that privilege with mine, as only current students are eligible for services at the student health center.
So, now you know I empathize with your pain... but I'm afraid I can't give you much advice. The only thing I can offer is that you will clearly have some benefits from making the move. You have decided that, despite the huge loss you are facing from moving and losing your therapist, you have enough to gain from your move to make it worthwhile. (Haha, sounds like a CBT thing -- did you make a cost-benefit table??) For me, I am graduating from college, getting a degree, finishing school, and (I hope) starting my life as an adult. All of this requires me to give up my psychologist, but that doesn't take away from what I am gaining.
One more thing, about your decision -- it looks like you have made the right decision about moving, and probably even more than you can realize right now. The emotional things (like the pain of losing your therapist) can cloud your judgment and perhaps figure in to your decisions more than they should. You show strength by making this decision (one way that you and I differ is that I didn’t really have much of a decision to make, so I didn’t really have to overcome that). If you made this decision even considering this emotional aspect, there must be a lot going for the move. Maybe once you actually make the move and you actually start experiencing the benefits of the move, it will be even better than you expected, and you will be glad that you didn’t let your attachment to your therapist hold you back from what was ultimately the right decision.
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