Posted by shadows721 on May 1, 2004, at 0:02:55
In reply to Re: the rules » noa, posted by Fallen4MyT on April 30, 2004, at 22:03:31
There were no personal attacks on you and actually I didn't see any on me either. Yes, we disagree on this topic. I don't take that personally at all. This is actually a discussion that is getting wonderful feedback from folks and getting them to think about therapy and their issue. That's a great thing.
I do have strong believes this issue. I think the topic is a good one. We all need to deeply examine our boundaries inside and outside of therapy. I have gotten a lot out of this discussion. Even if you don't agree, you may have seen the issue from someone else's eyes.
As a sexual abuse survivor, I am very vunerable to this stuff. Therefore, I have to have high boundaries to protect myself. For example, how can you really tell if someone is coming on to you? When you have been taught to not trust your instincts, it's hard to tell. Also, I have to put things in a child's perspective for myself. During my whole childhood I was brutally sexually abused, therefore, it is really a child that is in therapy. A therapist that would cross the line would also cross the line of the child. That's how I see myself in therapy. So, as far as a t and I being involved, no way and no how. They could look like a greek godlike image and talk so sweet that I would be hypnotized. That's not what I paid for and that's not what I am there for. That would be very traumatizing to the child that still is alive and scared in my mind. To put it more bluntly, I would be totally ticked off. A t was looking at me sexually as I was telling them about trauma. That's wicked. I was paying them to listen and not to have a fantasy.
So, now, you can see where and why I stand on this.
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