Posted by shadows721 on April 27, 2004, at 23:36:14
In reply to Need help w/ 13 yr old daughter, posted by Bgirls on April 27, 2004, at 12:58:43
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time with B.
It sounds like she is acting out her feelings. I don't know if you have tried it already, but found some other way for her to express what's going on inside by writing and drawing. Is she in therapy?
Is she jealous of her sister? I am guessing for the reason for her remarks. Is her sister more attractive and successful in school?
When someone stops taking care of hygiene, I think their symptoms have worsened. Does she talk with you? Can you ask her what's going on? Is she suicidal?
Thirteen is a very hard age for girls. There are so many changes and so many unattainable standards. With the weight problem, I am sure this has her feeling "on stage". Teens this age go through a period of feeling that the world is looking at them. Those remarks can go through her and really effect her in years to come.
My heart goes to you and your family. I think her behavior is lashing out to others the pain about she feels about herself. I try to look at behavior and the behavior is screaming out for something, but what? What is it that she needs?
Don't ever give up. I know it's trying, but just keep going. She needs you. Keep communicating with her even if you don't think it's going in.
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