Posted by Dinah on April 23, 2004, at 8:09:21
In reply to Re: Not being understood » shadows721, posted by fallsfall on April 23, 2004, at 7:31:54
> But when he says "The way that you are thinking about this doesn't look like it is going to be helpful for you", my gut says "You did it wrong".
Could it be that this is his non-CBT approach way of saying a very CBT statement about challenging dysfunctional thoughts rather than a criticism of your way of doing therapy? It sort of sounds like something my therapist would say to that end.
> *** Yes. He accepts what I say. But I also am concerned that I will talk about something painful and he'll say "Hmmm, that is painful for you, but I don't think that it is particularly relevant for where your therapy needs to go"
>Has he ever said that?
I think it does take a while to understand another person, even for a therapist. The other day my therapist restated my thought in a way that neither of us had ever done, and surprised me by how well he *got* it. But that took a loooong time.
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