Posted by BigFish on April 22, 2004, at 16:39:30
In reply to I told Ellen about the consultation today, posted by crushedout on April 22, 2004, at 15:16:01
> So, she asked me: what do I feel for her? And I told her that I felt longing. It wasn't conflicted at all. She said she thought that my longings weren't attached to her, that some day I could transfer them onto someone else, basically, and I told her that felt impossible. She said I needed to learn to tolerate the longing.Hi crushedout,
I have to say that the fact that these feelings you have are being categorized as transference doesn't seem quite right, especially since you've felt this way for so long. Are there not two people in a consulting room? Could she have unwittingly flirted with you? My T has flirted with me and I want to flirt back! Sometimes I wonder if this is a way for T's to deflect some of the intensity of the clients feelings - and perhaps remove any potential responsibility they have in the situation. [no disrespect toward your t - just speaking generally]
This sounds like a painful situation. As a fellow sufferer of a T-crush, I'm hoping that this turns out a-ok for YOU.
BigFish
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