Posted by DaisyM on April 21, 2004, at 23:31:10
In reply to Re: wait, you mean i'm not all better? » karen_kay, posted by Pfinstegg on April 21, 2004, at 22:14:35
Karen, I'm not sure which hat to put on for you. I think I will start with my "professional caregiver" hat:
Taking care of other people is a wonderful, warm thing to do. But to do so "instead" of taking care of yourself is simply postponing paying attention to your own issues. I know...look at me at 42! They will eventually DEMAND your attention, or get triggered off by some life event. Wishing them away doesn't work.That said, consciously taking a break from therapy is fine. But if you are in a theraputic setting, maybe you can take advantage of it, this group, and learn something about yourself. Maybe you can work on other issues for awhile.
I just don't want you to continue to try to please your therapist at your own detriment. You will only end up being resentful and this will set you back in the long run.
My "mommy" hat:
Occasionally we have to do what feels selfish but is really best for ourselves. You tell me that I can't take care of others if I don't take care of myself. I will say the same to you.How to do that, only you can decide. But it is NOT your job to make your therapist successful. Even as much as you care about him. Consider that you might provide a false sense of accomplishment for him and he isn't learning and growing for his next patient.
Ok - lecture over. I care about you and just want you to be emotionally healthy and happy.
Hugs from me.
Daisy
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