Posted by DaisyM on April 17, 2004, at 14:52:51
In reply to Confused, unhappy, upset...ashamed. (long), posted by Raindancer on April 17, 2004, at 13:02:58
Raindancer,
I am truly sorry for what you are going through. Please don't minimize how painful seperating from your Therapist "should" be...especially since you've experienced so much other loss this year.
I know that attachment is a core issue for you (me too). But maybe transfering that attachment to another Therapist for awhile and then working back out of it might be a good idea. Then you would have the support you need to get through the reality of your Therapist leaving. He does sound like he is trying to meet your needs and you have no reason to be ashamed of them. They are what they are.
A few months ago someone posted a link to a great article on attachment. I will look for it. It helped me a great deal understand my need for a "safe base" and why I can be so competent in one arena and such a little kid in therapy. I think you might find some solace in that too.
Distraction is the key to getting through. I know you know this...and try NOT to be alone too much. Other people, even in cyber space, really really help.
Keep posting. I'm thinking of you.
Daisy
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