Posted by antigua on April 13, 2004, at 7:14:50
In reply to Infant abuse (ramble)...may trigger (?), posted by KindGirl on April 13, 2004, at 1:27:42
Yes, I can relate, so please don't feel like you are alone. I can remember laying in the crib waiting for my mother, just like you, to come and pick me up, but she didn't. I was left in the bed for very long periods of time and apparently no one seemed to notice. I find it interesting (and somewhat distressing) to know that I can actually remember this when there are such big portions of my life that I don't.
I learned to be very, very quiet and to not cause any trouble. My mother says I never cried, but to me as a mother today that's a huge warning sign.
IMO you are reaching out to your T to get that love and nurturing you didn't receive. You're lucky to have a T who will try to provide that for you as an adult. Some Ts believe that we have to learn to accomodate and find other ways to get what we never had has a child; otherwise, we will keep trying to get it from other people and keep repeating the same patterns. Your T wants to help "fix it" or perhaps, to reparent you. Use what she has to offer and work through it, you've been given a great opportunity to heal.
Please don't feel like you are alone,
antigua
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