Posted by DaisyM on April 2, 2004, at 17:16:25
In reply to Re: I exasperate my T (and then some rambling) » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on April 1, 2004, at 21:53:50
I think you are absolutely right that transference can be about what you *didn't* get...I get the distinct feeling that my Therapist is wondering if he is "standing in" for my mom right now. I wonder that myself...
But I know that the tremendous need for someone to see the real you, to be with you and meet your emotional and physical needs, is an adult need as well as a need that might be left over from childhood.
My guess with a depressed mom might be that you have some need to caretake - getting what you need but being careful not to overwhelm a person. I don't know if your Therapist has proven that she can handle your intense needs, or if she has shown herself open to them, etc. If I remember correctly, there were issues about reciprocity around Christmas time, so maybe it is that "hope" that was ignited...I don't know.
This whole attachment thing is so complicated and distressing sometimes. I know the "why it can be good" parts but still.
I hope you find a way to get "cuddled" and your evening was great.
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