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Re: Therapy and the feelings conundrum Ľ 64Bowtie

Posted by All Done on March 12, 2004, at 17:18:45

In reply to Therapy and the feelings conundrum, posted by 64Bowtie on March 12, 2004, at 12:29:34


Iím not big on metaphors. My T once had us going in circles with this bubble metaphor. I about screamed before I told him I just couldnít do it anymore :), but Iíll give this my best shot. Hopefully, Iím not just confusing everything youíve said.

I prefer to think of a river instead of a swamp. For example, each year, the river near my office gets to a pretty low point. In order to get the river back to a reasonable level where families can enjoy the beach and boating, there has to be some rain. Most of the time, I donít enjoy the weather when itís raining, but in any event, itís necessary. I, for one, want to enjoy the river when I can. But somewhere along the line, I may have forgotten about my raincoat, lost my umbrella, and perhaps I never learned to use windshield wipers. My T is reminding about the coat, helping me find the umbrella, and teaching me about the wipers. Or maybe, heís even teaching me to sometimes just go out with no umbrella and enjoy the feel of every single drop of rain on my skin. And since I want to enjoy the beach and boating, I must endure some rain. The rain isnít going to stop and thereís no way either of us can stop it. (Not that I haven't begged him to on occasion :).) I just want every option open for me in deciding how to deal with it.

You said, ďWe say that we want the bad feelings to stop.Ē Iíve never told my T that I want the bad feelings to stop. In fact, the most productive few weeks Iíve felt Iíve had with him, I experienced great sadness and anger as well as happiness and elation. I want my T to teach me how to deal with my feelings and emotions as they occur because I donít think anyone can stop them (or build a levee) and I wouldnít even want that. Sometimes, my feelings seem to be few and far between, other times they happen all at once. Perhaps the later situation is what youíre referring to as the flash-flood.

Well, I see Iíve tangled a terrible metaphoric weave and now Iím just rambling. Iím not sure whether Iím agreeing or disagreeing with what you wrote, Rod. Sorry, I guess this is just me thinking out loud...

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