Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 9:55:06
In reply to Re: Feeling invalidated, angry, confused (kinda long) » crushedout, posted by fallsfall on March 6, 2004, at 23:25:57
fallsfall,thanks, that was helpful. yes, it's not that i think she's wrong, but that she should leave the door open somehow to the *possibility* that she's wrong, that there's another explanation for my behavior.
i actually think there may be a grain of truth in what she's saying but that there are other, much bigger reasons for my behavior that shouldn't be overlooked. for example, my wanting to keep her and myself in check because she's done things that don't make sense to me therapeutically.
actually, the more i think about it the more i'm convinced that i get angry at her for completely different reasons than others do. they get angry at her for crossing boundaries. i get angry at her for *not* crossing *more* boundaries.
anyway, no i never had a real consultation. but i've been talking to an old family friend who's a therapist on the phone a lot, and i called another therapist once who very quickly concluded i should end treatment. i was really unimpressed with her rash advice. we'd only talked for about 10 minutes. but that's another story.
> My therapist has been talking about unconscious motivation recently, too. This is how he explained it.
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> I can't prove that I DON'T have an unconscious motivation. He just wants me to accept that it is POSSIBLE that I do.
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> He can't prove that I DO have an unconscious motivation. I just want him to accept that is it POSSIBLE that I don't.
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> I think that we are both a bit more openminded. But there is no way to tell exactly what is going on.
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> Yes, it is frustrating - because I know that Consciously I DON"T want to have this motivation.
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> I don't think this makes it much clearer, but it is the best I can do for now...
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> Crushed, I think that SOME things your therapist says make sense, but SOME things don't. Did you have a consultation a little while ago?
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